Quite frankly, the only person who can help you in the quest to learn the techniques of staying calm is none but you! You have to find the root cause of your problem and then consistently work on it. Undoubtedly, your family and friends are always there with you!
- Steal Some Solitary Moments From Your Life
Go to a calm and cool place, may be your local park, a nearby church, a less-visited restaurant, or any place that can give you some soulful moments with yourself. Simply sitting on cool green grass under the limitless sky can sooth your nerves. If you cannot find any such place, dim your drawing room light and sit relaxed on your couch. Make sure there is proper ventilation in the room. If you are lucky to have an access to the terrace, it can be good option.
- Talk To The “Inner You”
Before you question me about the inner you, let me make things simple. By “inner you”, I do not mean any spiritual enlightenment or something very abstruse! It is just that you need to open your mind, effortlessly, without a calculating and judging mind! Just be! Just exist! Do not let yourself be bounded by any belief or dogmas. Leave all thoughts. I know that it is not so simple, but if you just let the thoughts come and go, you will slowly develop an inner awareness. You will see how you can separate yourself from the monotonous self talk of your mind. You will see that thoughts will constantly hit your mind, but once you are aloof from them, you will be able to generate a distance. This does not mean that you will stop the daily works that involve thinking! Carry your life as you have been, but sit and observe your mind just occasionally. This is just like meditation, where you are able to feel how your mind spoils the peace by constant blabbering. You will have a profound realization that as you let go of your thoughts, your mind will be uncluttered. This is the revelation you have to seize and focus so that the next time you are going to be caught in the vicious cycle of repeating the same thoughts, you will be able to order your mind to relax.
- Learn The Art of Anger Management
Well, if you have some practical problems related to anger and mood swings, then it is a good idea to consult a counselor and try to get rid of it. Do not be crestfallen if you get angry in the heat of the moment and regret later, as it happens if you have a long continued habit of anger-related problems.